Parents who are attempting to provide effective parental supervision and guidance of young children (a basic requirement for any sane and responsible family life) meet the following claim from the children at some rather early point in the typical trajectory of child development: “You’re not the boss of me.”
This happened to me, personally, with my own children. It turns out that there is even a book about it.
At the moment that a parent first hears one of his or her children make this claim, the statement tends to sound like an outrageous denial of one of the essential truths of parenthood.
Oh yes I am!
Looking at the “you’re not the boss of me” claim from a wider perspective, and in later years, this assertion of individual independence is essentially correct. Such an understanding is the basis good personal relationships. And of of good politics.
In almost any context, it’s not about being the “boss.”
Thanks, Sonya! Thanks, Philips!